If you’re anything like me, you’ll overthink everything that has anything to do with a ‘successful life’. We are all guilty of getting so caught up in making the best impression on others, that once we stop, we feel like we’re losing control of where we’re headed or who we’ve become. We all want to be in charge of our own lives – deep down we all want to live a life that we deem victorious.
“Stop fighting yourself and start fighting for yourself” ∼ The Revolutionary Impact
I wanted to kick off this article with one of my favourite quotes from The Revolutionary Impact. How powerful is this statement? We do fight ourselves, it’s true. We constantly chant excuses instead of repeating affirmations. Say there’s a job promotion and you’re doubting yourself, you will without a second-thought tell yourself there’s so much you don’t know – well, imagine if you just turned it around and said, I can do it. Nothing more, nothing less. Well guess what, you can. Remove “I don’t know” and “I can’t” from your vocabulary, start saying, “If I don’t know now, I will figure it out” and “I can”. Defend yourself. Fight for yourself.
Inject your days with wholehearted passion.
When we feel like we’re being dragged through the days – doing things we don’t like, working a job we aren’t passionate about – we become tired. We feel exhausted and the feeling of control can quickly dissipate. If you’re serious about taking control. Whether you want to be a writer, entrepreneur, actor, or your own boss, start now. When we’re young, we can so easily slip into saying, “Oh, I’m young, I have time.” Well, you’re correct, you do have time, but sorry kids the world doesn’t stop progressing just cause you’re having fun. I want us to enjoy ourselves, but also remember that if we want something we gotta live for it. Start each day right, dedicate some time each day to perfecting your craft, infest your surroundings with your craft – motivational boards, books, quotes, posters – and convince yourself it WILL happen. Bring on that New York Times Bestseller!
“Opportunity does not knock, it presents itself when you beat down the door.” ∼ Kyle Chandler
Figure out what matters to you and what doesn’t.
This applies to all aspects of your existence. Only let things into your life that bring you joy. If you want complete control of your everyday, without putting it off for weeks, seriously de-clutter your life; from the abundance of t-shirts you don’t wear, to the “friends” who bring your down. If something is contributing negativity rather than support, or taking up the space for something better, get rid of it. You don’t have to justify it to anyone, all you’ve to know is that you’re doing yourself a favour. When we put our life through this self-respect filter, we will settle for nothing less than we deserve. Chris Brogan, sums this concept up perfectly.
“Don’t settle. Don’t finish crappy books. If you don’t like the menu, leave the restaurant. If you’re not on the right path, get off it.” ∼ Chris Brogan
Live for the future, not the past.
You might be thinking, “Paige you’re contradicting every blog you’ve posted – living in the future? What happened to living in the moment?”. Well kids, I want you to live for the future in the now; I want you to set goals and work towards them today. Instead of clouding your passion with regret, better yourself today so you can be your best yet tomorrow – forever improving and forever reaching out with intrigue. Tell yourself where you’ll be in a years time. Never settle, only progress.
“Stop being a prisoner of your past. Become the architect of your future.” ∼ Robin Sharma
Don’t get greedy, you can’t have everything.
You can be in control of your own life, but remember so can everyone else. Don’t waste your valuable time and energy on things that do not benefit you, or things that you can’t quite gain control of. Let’s have a look at this quote:
“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” ∼ Steve Maraboli
“…to take control of what you do have power over…” is what makes my soul soar – Marboli, you speak the truth! We have the power to be head-strong, forward-thinking, passionate, and kind; don’t try and crave control where it’s not your right. Sometimes we have to surrender to the universe and let the path pave itself for a bit. When we step back and let this happen, the stressed/’trying too hard’ haze over our eyes clear, and we see direction more clearly.
Ultimately we live for happiness, so in the words of George Eliot, ‘it is never too late to be who you might have been.’
So, be who you want to be and take charge of your life… now.