I would like to think I am always a supporter of my friends and their endeavours;
I attend events, buy tickets for shows, I purchase the ‘zines, I wander exhibitions, I listen to creations.
First and foremost, I want to thank everyone for the support on my latest project. The love for ‘The Longer My Hair Grows’ exceeded my expectations, and is continuing to do so. There have been nights of teary groove sessions and it’s due to those people who have ordered my book – even as far as asking for signed copies – that has allowed me to taste the dream that I so very much crave. I feel like a writer now more than I ever have – and this is only the beginning.
However, within the last few days of celebratory excitement, I have noticed those who have said next-to-nothing. Those being friends who are also artists, and whom I thought would respond with overwhelming leaps of love for my achievements – but didn’t.
Which brings me to this blog. So, whilst trying to relieve this blog of any narcissistic undertones, let’s chat.
How do I deal with competition or fellow creatives who aren’t so happy about my achievements? Well, I just don’t give two shits.
I live my ‘writer’s life’ in a very, I guess you could say, realistic manner. Par example:
“I will publish a novel, but I don’t expect it to be my only income.”
“I will – one day – go on a book tour, but that may not include America.”
“I will gain more followers for the work I write on social media, but I will never rock the world.”
I keep myself on the ground, because I know to be successful requires hard work and self-belief, and not fairy-tale destiny crap. You have to start somewhere; the more you focus on your craft, the more authentic and original your work will be – ultimately, that is what is going to invite fandom. Yes, I sometimes fall into the trap of looking at other’s published books only to tell myself I’ll never be that good, but I don’t stay in that mindset very long. I remind myself that comparison won’t make me a better writer, writing will. So, I write.
“If I waited for perfection, I would never write a word.”
Stay focused on what you’re doing whilst supporting others. And remember, you most definitely will never get better if your ideal of perfection changes with person to person. I think the only competition there should be when it comes to creating is with yourself; with your previous work, and the need to hone in on the skill.
Instead of comparing yourself to another artist, ask them for critique.
My debut collection of poems, ‘The Longer My Hair Grows’, available now. Click here.