The Moon Is A Friend

Today has not been a good day.

I’ve had arguments over space, discussions about my face, and stress caused by money and the lack of its place. I’ve swallowed tears, my head has throbbed and my heart has raced, all in the last 24 hours.

I struggled to fall asleep, over nothing but a mind that won’t switch off, which led to a day where I didn’t even have the energy to smile. You don’t wear make-up anymore; how is your personal life? – I’m happy, and I’m enjoying my days between the nights, but these last 24 hours just haven’t been the best. I guess that is the problem with mental health, it never really leaves you. Like a moon, hidden behind clouds and daylight, it shines brighter some days, and can be invisible the next.

Today I listened to a song, which sang the romantic gesture of moon-giving. But when I look at the moon, I’m reminded of everything I stress about. I am reminded of the nights over the length of my life spent crying to the sky, wishing for a clear head, because where else do we look when our heads feel heavy. We look up, hoping to feel small; we look up, for advice from the universe. So when I see the moon, I see the projections of my past, not the romance I hear through my headphones.

“The moon is a friend for the lonesome to talk to.” ― Carl Sandburg, Poet

Even though I see the moon as a hole in the night sky where, since the age my head starting spinning, I’ve shoved everything to hide it away, I can recognise it’s beauty. A strange beauty. A love-hate beauty of past and future.

I’m merely thinking aloud.

5 Steps To Soul-Saving R&R

If you live in a city like me, you’ll understand how easy it is to get caught up in the hustle bustle and stress. Without noticing you can become just like everyone else, constantly reaching for a deadline that’s zoning in on you way too fast. Have you ever asked yourself Why does stress even exist? Well stress has evolved with us as humans as a survival instinct. Even though the typical work place isn’t a place of literal life or death, stress unfortunately still finds its way into our modern lives. It’s impossible for us to stop stress entirely, but some R&R can definitely help with a soul being suffocated by stress and a busy lifestyle.

As a young adult who suffers from anxiety and stress, here are 5 ways I calm my soul. We all need a healthy mind and body to aspire and inspire.

1.’The’ Trousers This may seem absolutely crazy, but find yourself your holy grail of trousers. These may be sweatpants, leggings, yoga pants, shorts, or designer trousers like me. I have a pair of Oska trousers I thrifted and they have become my ultimate feel-good item of clothing. They’re beyond comfortable, they exert creativity for me, and they fit like a glove. When I feel stressed, confined, or even ill, I wear them and know I’m in my zone of creative calm. They’re corduroy, high-waisted, flair Designer trousers but they work for me. If sweat pants work for you, own it. Wear ‘the’ trousers along with the comfiest of all tees, and you will instantly be set up for serious R&R.

2. Creativity This works for me, anytime. Being a creative soul myself, rest and relaxation is incomplete without a book, music, singing, or my MacBook opened on a new Page document. This may not work for everyone, but find something that does. Your form of creativity might be painting, sketching, colouring in your favourite adult colouring in book. Using your mind for something you love, stops there being space for the stresses of anything else. If you’re still thinking about that uni assignment due next week, blast a song like ‘These Days’ by Take That and groove it away.

3. Clean your space It’s very easy to be convinced that R&R means sitting in front of the TV with nothing but a tub of Ben & Jerry’s, but alas this isn’t the only approach. For me,  when I’m entirely overworked and my soul is screaming out for me to stop for a second, I love to tidy my room. I’m a fairly tidy person anyway, but cleaning my wardrobe, changing my bedding & vacuuming is one of my favourite things to do on a lazy day. It’s a little bit of physical activity which will make you feel accomplished, and having a clean space does aid with a clean mind. It’s fromage, but we all knows it’s true.

4. Treat your body If you’re treating your mind to some paused luxury, treat your body with delicious healthy foods. You will think clearer, and the energy that comes with nutritious foods with make your body feel more alive, and you will go back after a days rest fighting.

5. No-Go Zone If I can, I always make my times of rest and relaxation a ‘no work zone’. I don’t think about work – and when I was at uni, these days were a no go zone for any assignments- and doing this forces your mind and soul to just wind down. If you’re stressed, this may seem like deadline suicide, but trust me, after a day or two away from thinking about assignments or work, you’ll always come back with fresh perspectives and fresh & speedy energy.

If you do suffer from anxiety, make the time to find steps that work for you. It’s never fun to be stressed, but involuntarily worrying is worse. I’ve been there, and it’s been a matter of finding mantras, steps and people which aid in bringing my mind back to reality. Take time for yourself more often, and constantly remind yourself to do things that bring you more joy.

I wish all you beautiful souls the best in your days of R&R. If you have a soul-saving tip, comment down below so we can all include a bit more calm into our lives.

Paige x